the sheer amount of people who refuse to acknowledge adoption as a -possibillity- scares me.
For themselves or for others? Because I could never in a million years consider giving up my child, if I were lucky enough to have one. I know adoption works (there's been adoptions in almost every generation of my family on both sides) and I still could never consider it. It'd take extreme circumstances to make me even think about abortion -- it'd have to be life or death.
I love adoption, I do, but sometimes it just seems like it gets suggested as an option too often to women getting abortions because they're not financially, emotionally or mentally prepared to raise a child. "Well, if you can't raise it, you could give it to someone who could!" Wait, why does somebody else's desire for an infant take priority over my desire to keep my own damn child? Why is there less of a movement to make it easier for women to keep their children and more of a movement to suggest to them to give up their babies to the perfect needy couple? Why isn't the government doing more to help that needy couple understand that there are just as needy children and teens who need homes right now while at the same time providing programs that would make it easier for women like me to carry, give birth to, and raise an unexpected infant, women like me who are so broke we can't afford new clothes and would love to keep a baby but would have to dig up the money from somewhere for something as simple as maternity clothes for the next nine months all so that some nice shiny oh-so-perfect traditionally married two-parent couple can take my fucking baby?
... ahem. Sorry. I spilled venting on you. *offers a napkin*
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Date: 2008-09-14 12:57 am (UTC)For themselves or for others? Because I could never in a million years consider giving up my child, if I were lucky enough to have one. I know adoption works (there's been adoptions in almost every generation of my family on both sides) and I still could never consider it. It'd take extreme circumstances to make me even think about abortion -- it'd have to be life or death.
I love adoption, I do, but sometimes it just seems like it gets suggested as an option too often to women getting abortions because they're not financially, emotionally or mentally prepared to raise a child. "Well, if you can't raise it, you could give it to someone who could!" Wait, why does somebody else's desire for an infant take priority over my desire to keep my own damn child? Why is there less of a movement to make it easier for women to keep their children and more of a movement to suggest to them to give up their babies to the perfect needy couple? Why isn't the government doing more to help that needy couple understand that there are just as needy children and teens who need homes right now while at the same time providing programs that would make it easier for women like me to carry, give birth to, and raise an unexpected infant, women like me who are so broke we can't afford new clothes and would love to keep a baby but would have to dig up the money from somewhere for something as simple as maternity clothes for the next nine months all so that some nice shiny oh-so-perfect traditionally married two-parent couple can take my fucking baby?
... ahem. Sorry. I spilled venting on you. *offers a napkin*