Dude, seriously?

[apocalypsos]

Today there was another one of those "I'm a 22-year-old virgin and I'm afraid no one's ever going to have sex with me" secrets on ljsecret that pop up occasionally.

The responses are usually 90% "I didn't lose my virginity until I was 24/am a 24-year-old virgin now and I'm fine!" and 10% "Oh, just go to a bar and fuck somebody already," which always amuses me because honestly, if we were the kind of people who felt comfortable doing something like that, don't you think we would have done so by now?

In any event, out of all the supportive comments from other delayed virgins, I'm the oldest.

You know, at this point, I think I'd be disappointed to lose it if only because I'd have to come home and delete, like, five of my icons.

Comments

[deathbymutation.livejournal.com]

I'm probably one of the 5 or 6 in my grade that's still a virgin. Everyone else is a coke whore or had a kid at 14.

[ninamonkey.livejournal.com]

It's funny, because everyone thinks everyone else is "doing it" and they're the last one. Truth? There are forty and fifty-year-olds out there who've never done it.

They're just more discrete about it. ;)

[conuly]

My mother says she was born right at the swing year - by the time she was a young adult, if you asked somebody five years OLDER than she was if they were a virgin (assuming no evidence to the contrary such as marriage and a kid) they'd respond with a shocked "Of COURSE I am!". Same question with somebody five years younger? "Of COURSE I'm not!"

Of course, the actual reality of the situation was often quite different.

[ladysorka]

At this point I honestly don't even care anymore. I'm on the wrong side of 25, my virginity is. just sort of "eh, whatever."

Well, other than occasionally wondering if I could make money by selling bath products with a tiny bit of my blood mixed in. I bet a certain segment of the population would really go for Blood of Virgins Body Wash. Too bad the FDA'd never go for it.

[ghostrunner7.livejournal.com]

Dude, those are fucking awesome icons. Sex isn't worth it.

[larcley.livejournal.com]

Haha, I'm probably going to be a virgin forever. I still think that boys have cooties. Except cooties = STDs now that I've taken sex-ed. :(

I hate that virgins seem to be looked down upon a lot. I mean, really. People treat you like you never hit puberty, or you're weird, like, "Oh, you'll find the right one," or "Stop being antisocial and get laid." There's nothing wrong with being a delayed virgin. I've got goals, dude, and I aim to keep them. And none of them involve getting laid. The tragedy! D:

[loopychew.livejournal.com]

28 here.

[jade-starlight.livejournal.com]

I'm almost 27, and I'm perfectly happy this way. It's just so much less complicated. *g*

[akire-yta.livejournal.com]

didn't wefigure out relative virginities last time this came up? I totally want an icon now that reads "Virginity: Not as uncommon as you might think."

[taraljc.livejournal.com]

Sadly, I've got 4 years on you. This is what happens when your first and only boyfriend (whom I met when I was 24)--who you stay with for 5 years--is a devout Roman Catholic.

It kinda messed me up.

Strangely, doesn't stop me from writing pr0n. Albeit not very porn-y porn, but still...

[calicokat.livejournal.com]

26 here. I'm not entirely a virgin but I think I've come to the point where I've found the entire business tedious. Which is funny, because I love writing porn! Like, LOVE it. It's so much fun. XD But somewhere between my gender identity issues and...I don't know, realizing that if I wanted to have sex with somebody I'd have to deal with somebody who's not me all the time, I totally got over it. And by it, I mean intercourse. (At least, I'd have to deal with them if it wasn't boring meaningless bar sex.)

Icon related. ;)

[elucreh.livejournal.com]

I used to feel afraid like that, but now I have a creepy ex who regularly offers. Maybe this should be more disturbing, but at least I know that if I want it more than I want my selfrespect/senseofpersonalsafety/decentboundaries, I won't have any trouble getting it.

[troubleinchina.livejournal.com]

Friend of mine (male) is also a virgin, coming up on 32. He seems pretty okay with it at this point.

[apiphile.livejournal.com]

LJ icons > sex. Take it from a former skank ho.

[honorh.livejournal.com]

Bet I'm older than you!

[xzombiexkittenx.livejournal.com]

Conversely I lost my virginity at 16 and after a string of bad relationships and old issues given new methods to channel through, I'm now 23 and haven't had sex in 3 years because my issues finally broke me to the point where the thought of having sex with someone makes me cry and after four years of sex in relationships and semi-self-destructive drunken one night stands I've got issues out the wazzoo and a total tally of 0 orgasms with another person (men and women). I wish I hadn't bothered in the first place.

So sex, whatever. Never did shit for me.

There's nothing wrong with being a virgin. There's always someone who'll have sex with you, the point is to find someone you want to have sex with too.

[roseblight.livejournal.com]

21-year-old virgin, so happy to see there are others out there who are okay with it. YES.

Unrelatedly: apocalypsos, you posted a video earlier this year of a possum enjoying tickles, but I haven't been able to find it again. Do you know what I'm talking about?

[girlwiththebook.livejournal.com]

Almost 25, still a virgin and have never had a third date.

I'm at the point where if I had a girlfriend or boyfriend, I wouldn't know what to do with them - not in a sexual matter, I read and watch porn so I get the general idea - but in a 'I'm not starting to see the point beyond a physical relationship' way.

Some of my friends say it is probably because I have such a supportive and loving family and a great group of friends (said friends might be tooting their own horn since they tell me this) and aside from the possible physical benefits of a relationship, I have no need and I certainly don't feel like there is something in my life that's missing.

And yeah, I'm picky and have really high standards. Or, I have normal standards but other people - who are not really my friends, of course - think it is weird that I want someone who is intelligent, not an asshole/douchebag, and attractive enough that I want to have sex with them. Because sure, there are people I've been attracted to IRL but I never felt enough chemistry with any of them that made me go 'huh, maybe this is it'.

Maybe I'm just a robot and I don't know it yet.

[bailunrui.livejournal.com]

I'm in exactly your situation. 25 in September and have no current desire for a boy beyond the physical benefits.

[purple-smurf.livejournal.com]

27 and 2/3 here, and will definitely hit a couple more years with hymen intact.

Actually, I really really fit the Clueless "virgin who can't drive" thing.

[scary-being-me.livejournal.com]

I had sex for the first time when I was young (13) and I regret it. It was awful, for one thing. For another, she never spoke to me again. Neither of us were ready for it. We didn't even care about each other.

I just don't date anymore. Relationships just aren't worth it. For me it's less about the sex and more about just not wanting to get hurt again.

[lavenderfrost.livejournal.com]

24, going n 25 in a week. Still haven't dated or even kissed a guy, much less had sex, so...solidarity? ^^;; *sekkrit terrorist virgin fist-jab*

[anne-jumps.livejournal.com]

I was 24, and I didn't even date, etc., until I was in college. I felt pretty freakish but that was because I didn't really understand via the power of the Internet that I wasn't such an outlier.

[kumquatweekend.livejournal.com]

I first got it on at the ripe old age of 20, thinking I was the last of my social group to do so.

My two bestest friends in the whole wide world, both of them brilliant, hilarious and smokin' hot? Currently still virgins at 27, and I'm the hussy of the crew.