Well, damn. Who knew that to avoid so many "uncomfortable" and potentially dangerous situations we just had to use our words.
Allow me to use my words now: silence never ever EVER means consent. Consent is not implicit. Yes, yes, I should be a strong, empowered woman, and I should be able to use my words to say "no" or "this is making me uncomfortable" but let's say, for the sake of argument, that rather than being strong and empowered I freeze up out of fear or some other reason that you or I can't imagine, and I don't speak up. THAT IS NOT CONSENT.
It's not. I don't know how there is any gray area here. When it comes to anything involving sex consent is consent.
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Date: 2010-05-11 09:30 pm (UTC)Allow me to use my words now: silence never ever EVER means consent. Consent is not implicit. Yes, yes, I should be a strong, empowered woman, and I should be able to use my words to say "no" or "this is making me uncomfortable" but let's say, for the sake of argument, that rather than being strong and empowered I freeze up out of fear or some other reason that you or I can't imagine, and I don't speak up. THAT IS NOT CONSENT.
It's not. I don't know how there is any gray area here. When it comes to anything involving sex consent is consent.