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[apocalypsos]

I have to give Halle Berry credit for going and accepting her Razzie. Okay, that's actually kind of cool. Of course, it still doesn't make Catwoman suck any less. (And Bush, Rumsfeld, and Britney Spears won for their "acting" in Fahrenheit 9/11. Bwahahahahahaha.)

Am currently watching A Fish Called Wanda. I love Kevin Kline in this movie. "K-k-k-ken is c-c-c-coming to k-k-k-kill me!" HEE.

EDIT: Why did I sign up for eHarmony again? If there's one level of my shyness I still haven't gotten over, it's talking to guys. *headsmack* And I did it last night, and I've already had three matches. I don't know whether to be impressed or terrified.

OTHER EDIT: Aaaaand now it's onto A Few Good Men. Yay, Tom Cruise at his cutest stage in the early-to-mid-nineties. :)

Comments

[insomniacjack.livejournal.com]

Wow, that is pretty impressive. (Halle Berry showing up to accept her Razzie.)

You have a severe case of shyness when talking to guys? Somehow I had never imagined females having problems with that, but I guess it was silly of me to assume that none of them did. I'm a guy, and I have trouble talking to the opposite sex unless I knew them online first, or if they met me in person and were very friendly and talkative towards me and found me to be an interesting person.

Dealing with that kind of shyness really sucks. I keep seeing worthwhile women wasting their time on these guys that I just don't see where the attraction is coming from. I think things like, "Well, I'm more loving and caring than this guy. I'm also more mature and emotionally stable. I'm also smarter and have more potential for success. I'm likely better in bed. I'm even better looking than this guy! Yet this all means nothing because I can't talk to her and maintain a conversation because I'm incredibly nervous around women who I find attractive." Knowing that you have tons to offer but having great difficulty showing this to the ones you desire = Extreme suckage.

I hope that you either overcome your shyness or that you find someone special online. I would suggest working on the former because then it would be easier to find someone else if and when you break up with someone. That's what I'm working on. It isn't easy, but it will be well worth it in the longrun.

[whitewithsnow.livejournal.com]

Knowing that you have tons to offer but having great difficulty showing this to the ones you desire = Extreme suckage.

Indeed.


A LOT of females have that kind of problems. I'm working on it too, though.

[insomniacjack.livejournal.com]

I wish you much luck with that.

[idadebeautreux.livejournal.com]

Somehow I had never imagined females having problems with that

More women probably do than you might think. While guys have to deal with the social expectation that they should be the ones to go after the girl, girls still have to deal with the social expectation to be the persued - to wait for what they want to come to them and to not go after it themselves, lest they be branded as a red-painted harlot or something.

[insomniacjack.livejournal.com]

I had forgotten about that issue. However, I've heard that in recent years it is becoming more and more acceptable for women to initiate things. But as far as I know, guys who don't approach women on a regular basis never get dates. They are assumed to be a) creepy b) asexual c) having low self-esteem d) any combination of a, b, and c.

[idadebeautreux.livejournal.com]

Well, it IS becoming more acceptable - but there's plenty of women who are just as shy as men. It's just we're perceived as a)lesbian b)asexual c)beaten with a fugly stick and if not, then a hardcore b!tch, d)a really bad lay/don't put out or e) any combination thereof.

Or at least...that's how it's always seemed to me!

[insomniacjack.livejournal.com]

You get perceived as things from that list for being assertive? That doesn't make sense to me. If you are assertive in persuing a guy, I'd think it would rule out being a lesbian, and would make asexuality seem unlikely. As for the "really bad lay" thing, I'd think that an assertive woman would be much more interesting in bed than one who just stands around throwing out that fake "OMG, I'm so helpless!" vibe. (I'm a little biased there though, I'm a submissive.) Unfortunately, I'm not sure I can say similar things about being perceived as fugly or as a hardcore bitch, because it seems that a large amount of men have some really fucked up definitions of beauty and opinions on what is socially acceptable.

Now, if you were saying that you get perceived as things on that list as a result of being very shy, that makes a little more sense. They might think you are a lesbian, or are asexual, or don't put out, because you aren't expressing interest. I don't know if where item c comes into it though.

[idadebeautreux.livejournal.com]

Sorry, I wasn't clear - girls are perceived that way when they are shy - they come off as uninterested, and hence all those other remifications. (c) is one of those things that single girls, even the most independent and self-assured, occasionally figure has to be a reason for being single. It's rather more of a self-perception than others' perceptions of the girl in question.

[ktnb]

Oh, be prepared for far more than three matches from eHarmony. They say it's a highly specialized system, but I can get like fix or six matches per day.

[cmstephens.livejournal.com]

I took the test for eHarmony maybe three times. Each time, it said I was in a certain small percentage of the population that they can't help.

Gee, how re-assuring... *Plunges off cliff* They could've at least lied to me and said, "Sorry, no matches at this time"; it would've been slightly less painful...

[loesaurus.livejournal.com]

I love the part where he speaks Russian and she gets all turned on by it. Only John Cleese can look somewhat sexy standing there in nothting but polyester socks reciting Russian verse.