Ugh.

[apocalypsos]

There's only two things I hate about being laid off:

1. Looking for a new job.
2. Having my mother call me at 7:30 in the morning to rag on me about OMG YOU BETTER GO PUT IN A RESUME HERE AND HERE AND HERE AND HERE AND HERE AND HERE AND HERE AND HERE AND HERE ...

Let me explain something. My brother quits jobs at the drop of a hat. He told me he was sorry I lost my job. My father finally got a real job a couple of years ago after having his own business for twenty-five years or so. He asked me a few simple questions and that was the end of it.

My mother has had the same very secure job for the past twenty years. And it shows.

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[marag.livejournal.com]

In a similar vein, my MIL is prone to lecturing Avi about how to deal with office politics or job hunting or being a manager...

My MIL has never worked in an office. Back in, oh, 1963 she worked in a botany lab or something while she was getting her master's degree. She's been a stay-at-home mom and an artist since then.

But somehow she's an expert on offices. Just like your mother is an expert on job hunting.

[apocalypsos.livejournal.com]

Well, to be fair, my mother works in human resources. ;)

I just kinda want to shake her, though, you know? Give me a week or two to burn off steam and be depressed, for crying out loud. The job market's still going to be a disaster area no matter when I go out, sadly enough.

[writerrising.livejournal.com]

I have family members who can be like that. I've probably been guilty of it myself a time or two.

At least it's probably a sign of care though.

[dangerusliasons.livejournal.com]

Before I got the job I have right now, my mother was the same way. She's had the same job for almost twenty years as well and it shows with her too.

[telaryn.livejournal.com]

And of course those kind of speeches make you suddenly feel like you're fourteen years old all over again.

Yeah - I'm a good ten years older than you, and I *still* get that kind of help from Mom about things.

[vampslayer04.livejournal.com]

Yeah, my parents do that. And my grandparents still ask me when I'm going to quit my job and move home (I live an hour away from family). It's like I moved across the country or something, in their minds.

[fyrdrakken]

And my grandparents still ask me when I'm going to quit my job and move home

Oh, god, don't you just love when your job/career/entire life are perceived to be secondary to your "family obligations"? And it does seem to be single women that run into that to the worst degree...

[vampslayer04.livejournal.com]

Yep. Seems to be. *would say more, but don't want to rant in your journal, of all places*

[vampslayer04.livejournal.com]

And, fail. I R not paying attention. Ignore that 'your journal' comment. Really need to start paying attention to people's names and not their icons. *facepalm*

[fyrdrakken]

No worries, I'm sure I've done the same in the past. (I've certainly accidentally posted my comment to the wrong spot, which has the same effect.)

[bonspiel.livejournal.com]

My parents had the same jobs since the dawn of time (ok, since before I was born, although they're retired now) and they do the same thing to me. The first time I got laid off it was as if a) the company had impugned my honor and b) the entire world was in crisis and if I didn't get another job instantly my whole life was doomed. Fortunately after a few more job switches they've gotten more mellow about the whole thing, but I'm sure it still pains their Calvinist souls.

[amalthia]

my mom and husband kind of do the same thing when I'm unemployed..to be fair my mom has gone through many jobs...my husband is an engineer one of the most secure jobs next to doctors.

[fyrdrakken]

So back in, mmm, 2003 I spent seven months jobhunting. And for the first month or two Mom was understanding, but after a bit she got pretty naggy about I should be looking harder and blah blah blah, as if I weren't already sending my resume all over and going to interviews and poking temp agencies and the like.

So eventually I got sent on the temp-to-hire assignment that became the job I'm still in today, and things went along until Mom got laid off last October. She's starting to get a bit discouraged (not to mention more than a little fed up with her own mother, who now calls at least once a day -- sometimes repeatedly if she's agitated about something). I'm not making any references to how much shit she gave me about not finding a job -- I'm just letting karma go ahead and happen. And hoping she turns up something eventually.