A quickie rant ...

[apocalypsos]

... for shemchadash before I have to work.

Yeah, I'm a virgin. What of it? *growls*

Okay, seriously. Most people are pretty much "Oh, that's so commendable" about it, and nearly all of them really aren't mentally finishing that statement with, "... you big pathetic loser." (Which is nice of them.) But it's the occasional "Why?" that drives me nuts.

Dude, "Why"?! Because I haven't found a guy I'm willing to nail who's willing to nail me right back. Because I really just lock myself in my room constantly by choice and not because I'm eternally broke and I never ever go out and when I sense male pheremones in the air, I run screaming in the opposite direction flailing my arms in the air and go scrub my entire body with the nearest wire brush. Because I want the nun lifestyle without the lame fashion sense. Because I have a severe allergy to pregnancy scares and STD frights and I know where all the good porn is on the Internet.

Take your pick. Grrr.

Comments

[anitac588.livejournal.com]

OK; I know where all the good porn is on the Internet that would be mine.

[http://users.livejournal.com/_inbetween_/]

last time you answered with "because i have no nekkid *sorryforgotnamewascoolguysubstitutedomfornow*"

[palmetto.livejournal.com]

Because I haven't found a guy I'm willing to nail who's willing to nail me right back.

And there's the reason I was a virgin until the age of 23. Nothing really commendable, just lack of opportunity.

[robyn-ma.livejournal.com]

If not for the not-really-being-into-chicks thing (from what I've gathered), you'd make a fine lesbian. :) And you'd be chic!

[ngaio]

Believe it or not I was reading a really cool site on celibacy yesterday and those are all good reasons which people quoted. (that's *not* patronising) Personally, I see nothing odd in it, in fact if I weren't married I'd be quite happily celibate and bugger everyone else everyone else can just sod off go away.

[dorei.livejournal.com]

A friend of mine did "everything but" until she was 23 or so because she was afraid of the whole pregnancy thing and she wanted to be graduated from college, just in case.

She got over that though. At least, I sure hope she did. Otherwise her husband will be kind of upset by now.

[bibliotech.livejournal.com]

Man, in my hillbilly school, I got flack for being a virgin until I was 18. Not jumping into bed straightaway obviously means you have omgseriousissues. For me, it was 'severe allergy to pregnancy scares and STDs'. Oh, and boys have cooties. A lot.

[http://users.livejournal.com/_inbetween_/]

can you link me to it? i was intrigued searching the net for celibacy a few months ago and hitting a real void. there were only a few self-help groups. a real taboo!

[apiphile.livejournal.com]

Surely the correct answer is "because I *can*"? I find it works in all these situations. I'm no a virgin, used to be a giant slut, in fact, am now in a monogamous relationship and DON'T HAVE SEX because I DON'T WANT TO. Try crowbarring that into the heads of a community obsessed with what they look like in bed, and there you have why I find my social life so unappealing. ;)

Also, I got flack for being a virgin at 13. THIRTEEN. Insane.

[jitterbugparfum.livejournal.com]

Virginity is the new gay! Everyone's not doing it.

Can I ask--what are people supposed to say? I don't mean that to sound as snotty as it probably does. Every so often someone will tell me that he or she is still a virgin, and while I know enough not to say, "Good for you!" or "REALLY? WHY?" I never know what I *can* say....

[jrosestar.livejournal.com]

I made the mistake of having sex for just the sake of having sex...finding out what all the bells and whistles were about. Unfortunately having sex with the wrong person doesn't give you the bells and whistles.

I think it's great that you are waiting for the right time and person. It's so much better when you're doing it because you WANT to, NOT because you're expected to.

[dragonsinger.livejournal.com]

*Nods* I agree with some of it, only I haven't found a guy I want to nail yet. Dragonboyfriend is the closest one.

[foresthouse.livejournal.com]

*icon love*

[anne-jumps.livejournal.com]

Same with me.

[harmonyfb.livejournal.com]

Well, if you wanted to be a smartass, you could answer, "I'm hoping to give birth to the next Savior."

Personally? I'd have 'sploded if I'd had to wait. Messily. I'm sure the mental image was TMI, sorry.

But I'm not everybody - what worked (or didn't) for me might not work for anybody else.

And frankly, it ain't nobody's damn business but yours. Next time somebody asks "why?", ask them "Why'd your Momma raise you in a barn?"

[azurelunatic]

And now that I'm not jumping on people left and right and am deciding that right now I can afford to keep it in my pants for a year to try and see wtf is up with Darkside, anyway, and see if keeping it in my pants is going to help him wake up and smell the pheremones, people are strongly implying if not telling me that I need to jump the random guys I get the hots for regardless of whether they're good relationship prospects.

[prairiedaun.livejournal.com]

May I metaquotes this?

[ladysorka]

I also enjoy telling people "Because the demons don't let the unpure talk to them." or "I have a unicorn fetish."

I mean, dude. I'm a virgin. I don't understand how it's anyone else's business anyway.

[jitterbugparfum.livejournal.com]

Oh! Sure! :)

[akacat]

a severe allergy to pregnancy scares

Oh yeah. That'd be why I was a virgin until I married (age 21, and boy was *that* a stupid move). And if this was a fair world, would requalify for virginity since the divorce of husband #2.

Luckily I'm just barely old enough that pregnancy was scarier than STDs, or I probably wouldn't have ever married!

[ngaio]

http://www.glandscape.com/index.html, the actual page I was reading is linked to on the left-hand side Celibacy FAQ. But it's a good all round sexual politics site.

[http://users.livejournal.com/_inbetween_/]

thanks, i know that one

[http://users.livejournal.com/_inbetween_/]

him?

[cleolinda.livejournal.com]

Hey, you too? And I'm 26. And yeah, it's mostly that I've never been with someone I liked enough (and the person I *do* like enough, with time, isn't here). I dunno--I like to think of myself as the Virgin Queen. ; )

[ewacat.livejournal.com]

I'm lucky. No flack whatsoever.

Although, granted, with me the whole virgin thing is from the sheer lack of opportunity. I have yet to find a potential mate with an acceptable level of snark and beauty, which basically proves the point that humanity sucks.